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Imagine you join a discord (or other similar online group social space with rules and moderators) which has this rule: you're not allowed to say anything too self-deprecating. If you do, you must say three nice things about yourself.

The discord otherwise seems appealing.



Asking because I have seen people reblog this tumblr post mentioning such a rule positively, and I also once encountered this rule on what I think was a separate discord (rather than being for a group of friends it was for a fandom that poster does not appear to be interested in) So it seems a non-negligible number of people are cool with such rules.

But my reaction is very negative, and I'm curious to find out how unusual that is. Thus, a poll! I also just want to get across that some people are seriously troubled by such rules, but am genuinely unsure how that compares to the number who would significantly benefit from them.

Note: I'm not asking about variants like self deprecation being discouraged but there's no actual consequences, or whether you find this kind of rule helpful to enforce inside your own head or in other very different kinds of social situations. Nor am I distinguishing between how you would feel about the rule being applied to you, versus your assumptions about a space that has such a rule. If you have different feelings about Discord versus other social spaces, just answer for Discord.

Just: would encountering this specific rule in a real discord overall feel like a positive thing or a negative thing.
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hmasfatty tagged me in a playlist meme, but I don't really listen to playlists any more so all of mine are super out of date. Instead, here's 10 songs that I randomly saved to youtube, spotify, and bandcamp when I happened to remember you can do that. Which means you miss all the songs I listen to as part of full albums I own, otherwise it would mostly be Radiohead, Bjork, and Metric.

St. Vincent - Down
Lizzo: Good as Hell
Two Hands by Big Thief
Phoenix - If I Ever Feel Better
Max Sharam: Coma
Sept Saturnes by Dix
PJ Harvey - Shame
Death Cab for Cutie - I Will Follow You into the Dark
The Chain (2004 Remaster) Fleetwood Mac
Hole - Celebrity Skin

And yes this is the less outdated version. At least one of these songs came out this decade! They're not even all breakup songs, barely capture my music tastes at all >.>
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elwing tagged me in a meme on tumblr. I always overthink these things, so, off the top of my head!
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I use an IFFT script to crosspost from dreamwidth to tumblr. Recently a couple of my dreamwidth crossposts have not shown up on tumblr. The posts crossposted to livejournal, and show up in my dreamwidth's rss feed, so I don't think it's a dreamwidth issue. They were very run of the mill posts, and spaced out between posts that crossposted fine.

So it's probably IFFT or tumblr. Has anyone else been having crossposts etc vanish?

There's been a new Steven Universe episode out for nearly 24 hours and nobody spoiled it for me.

(I've seen it now, it was pretty good!)

There's been a very Strikethrough-esque purging of accounts on tumblr recently. Apple removed the app because there was too much Inappropriate Content so tumblr used a highly unreliable automated process to remove accounts, and enough people have been hit that's there's a general air of "maybe this is going to be it for me and/or the site".

People have been posting links to their other social media, so! From most to least used:
I'm here(*) on dreamwidth at alias_sqbr and sqbr
Twitter: sqbr
Mastodon: sqbr at im-in.space
Pillowfort: sqbr

And while I'm listing things:
Tumblr: alias-sqbr and sqbr
AO3: sqbr
DeviantArt: sqbr

I also have Serious Game Developer etc accounts but I don't publicly link those to this pseudonym.

(*)Which is to say, I am making this post on dreamwidth, but this line is aimed at those reading the livejournal and tumblr crossposts, because anyone reading on dreamwidth probably knows my dw username already ;)

I was tagged by nilhmai but am totally ignoring the tag ten people bit myself because it's too hard. I have decided to define "OTP" as a pairing I not only like but am so invested in I find it hard to see the characters with other people. I'm generally a multishipper so these are rare!

Anne/Diana from Anne of Green Gables: I haven't consumed the canon in literal decades but it was deeply formative and I still feel a DEEP SENSE OF RESENTMENT any time I am reminded that Anne/Gilbert is canon.

Chell/GlaDOS from Portal: Have I mentioned how much I like robot/human femslash enemy ships?

Dave/Terezi from Homestuck: I don't ship it as hard any more due to canon shenanigans but ohhh did I love it in the day. I can ship them both with other people, but there will always be a small part of me going "But where is Terezi/Dave?" (LIKE SAY AT THE END OF CANON)

Leliana/Morrigan from Dragon Age: the ship I have the most works for at the AO3, even though they never liked each other much in canon and there's more supported f/f I could be shipping instead. And they got EVEN MORE PERFECT for each other in DAI, the subtle similarities I saw in Origins were teased out in really interesting ways. Shout-out to (Isabela/)Fenris/Mef!Hawke as the Dragon Age ship that consumed me the most emotionally.

Darcy/Elizabeth from Pride and Prejudice: such a great example of an initially combatitive pairing that ends up genuinely perfect for each other. I have enjoyed so many versions of them getting together and am still enthusiastic at the prospect of more.

Honourable mentions: Root/Shaw from Person of Interest, Utena/Anthy from Revolutionary Girl Utena, Sam/EDI from Mass Effect, Ahiru/Rue from Princess Tutu, Mary/Anne from Pride and Prejudice, Zuko/Mai from Avatar the Last Airbender, Zen/Obi/Shirayuki from Akagami no Shirayukihime (mainly because I'm into it right now I don't know how I'll feel later), Magneto/Xavier from Xmen (probably my first m/m ship), and f!Shepard/Tali from Mass Effect

All have image descriptions unless stated otherwise.

Discord: I have one, but feel a little weird linking it publicly. Hit me up if we know each other well enough to be DMing.

Dreamwidth:
alias_sqbr Fannish and personal stuff. Updated frequently, usually a mix of reviews, art dumps, and health stuff, for which I have a special filter.
sqbr Serious social justice discussions. Quieter than it used to be but still updated semi regularly, though posts these days are usually locked.

Livejournal:
alias_sqbr: What I used before dreamwidth, now entirely dead.

Tumblr:
sqbr Fairly active, random mix of nerdery, pretty things, and social justice.
alias-sqbr Creative things I have made. Updated semi regularly eg whenever I make something. Mostly fanart.

Twitter:
sqbr No longer used.

Mastodon:
https://aus.social/@sqbr Quiet.

Bluesky:
sqbr.bsky.social Slightly less quiet.

Creative things:
Nexus mods Currently just Stardew Valley mods. No image descriptions.
sqbr AO3: fanfic, art for exchanges or with multiple pages, the odd game or piece of original fiction.
sqbr Deviantart: art, mostly fanart
sqbr Fanfiction.net: fanfiction, no longer used

I also have Professional Artist And Game Developer stuff that avoid linking to my fannish persona publicaly but can be seen here if you're on the access list for sqbr or here for alias_sqbr.

And I have a Facebook account under my legal name which I try to keep separate from all the rest and use as little as possible.

Other than that pretty much anyone is welcome to follow any of my blogs. I'd rather noone followed me for hatereading or whatever but if you're doing that you presumably don't care.

I think that's everything!

Again I found myself writing a novel in repsonse to a link on tumblr, but this time I actually agree with it, I just got too wordy :)

BIOWARE MAKES STRANGE BEDFELLOWS: SEX & CONSENT IN RPGS

I find it a bit odd she gives Dragon Age as an example of a series where romance always leads to sex, and uses Solas the the headline image, when there isn't any sex in the Solas romance. There's none in Josephine's either, and apparently the developers did this deliberately for asexual players (though I have no source for this).

But I agree with her overall point. There's no reason romance has to lead to sex, and the fact it almost always does, and that the player may find their characters having sex when all they explicitely agreed to was love, is really unfortunate.
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Made an ello account but THEY DON'T HAVE TAGS so I can't see me using it much. It has the instant posting style of facebook and twitter if that appeals to you, and I will follow people there if I have to. You have "friends" and "noise" filters (flattering haha) but I don't think you can lock posts. Also you seem to be stuck with a black on white colour scheme.

As I recall it was briefly the New Darling on tumblr for not having Facebook's real names policy, but then the owners did something dodgy like...dealing badly with harassment or something? Personally I'm sticking with dreamwidth and tumblr, with facebook/twitter/ello etc mainly used for grudging replies to those of you without the good taste to prefer the same social networks as me.