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distantcam doesn't actually read dreamwidth but I'm POSTING THIS ANYWAY.

That's 20 years of dating, we've only been married for 12 years, but we don't care about that so much. It's strange looking back on 20 years together, thinking about how much has happened and how much we've changed. We had NO IDEA what we were doing at 19 (me) and 21 (Cam), so the fact we tumbled into a functional relationship that's survived 20 years of ups and downs feels like a miracle. I mean we did try very hard to communicate honestly etc. We just didn't expect that to work.

We met at a party in December 1998, where we were both avoiding unwanted suitors and wanting distraction from recent breakups. So when we found ourselves next to a cute, charming stranger on a two person couch we avoided our usual self consciousness/over-thinking, all I AM TALKING TO THIS CUTIE AND STAYING WHERE I AM AND HAVING FUN, SCREW YOU UNIVERSE. And then it turned out we were both enrolled in 3rd year computer science at the same uni in 1999, so we avoided lectures together in the scifi club and bonded. At a party in early March we both made a concerted effort to flirt with each other and got our wires largely crossed, but somehow figured out we were mutually interested just in time for my dad to come pick me up to go home. And on March 8 1999 we sat next to each other in the scifi club and slowly and shyly held hands and then after like...two hours one of us asked "So are we...dating...??" and the other one said "I think so???" and the rest is history :D

I remember emailing our mutual friend gelignite to say that I wasn't sure it would last but Cam was nice so far. AND HERE WE ARE.

And here's to another 20 years more :)

Not much, really, but it's been a while.

Writscrib died. I don't have great hopes for Pillowfort, either.

I bought a juicer! It's a bit of a hassle to clean considering the juice doesn't keep long, but watching it go WHIZZ is fun and Cam and I were both pretty happy with the results from a bag of Coles juicing apples. I have two apparently unrelated intestinal conditions(*) that mean I can't digest most raw fruit and vegetable fibre and have to go on a clear fluid diet once a year, so being able to drink fresh (and thus more nutritious) juice whenever I like is pretty appealing.

I signed up for remixrevival's Madness, right now I'm focused on my main assignment but intend to poke about later for fun stuff to illustrate/riff on. Anyone can sign up and remix other people's works/offer to be remixed.

The latest manifestation of my continuing Hakuoki obsession is a monster Chizuru/Saito/Okita WIP currently up to 31K words, which is longer than anything else I've written except Wedding is Destiny. And that took me 8 years, while I've been writing this for a couple of weeks? Turns out I have a lot of feelings about chronic illness and polyamory and gender (and vampire samurai)

Speaking of which: moonvoice finished their radiotherapy, and while it was pretty awful it's over and they're still around so that's great :) Also Cam and I decided we can't be bothered being so careful about mentioning that we're poly on social media disconnected from the more conservative people in our lives. So, I have been dating moonvoice for about 8 months now and they are wonderful and amazing.

....hmm. While chucking a bunch of random things in the juicer was fun my stomach is a bit "Did I really have to digest 3 pears an apple and some celery sticks all at once??" YES STOMACH YOU DID STOP WHINING.

(*)Irritable bowel syndrome and polyposis, since I know I'm always curious when people make these sorts of vague comments.