It's Me and Cam's 20 Year Anniversary

[alias_sqbr]

distantcam doesn't actually read dreamwidth but I'm POSTING THIS ANYWAY.

That's 20 years of dating, we've only been married for 12 years, but we don't care about that so much. It's strange looking back on 20 years together, thinking about how much has happened and how much we've changed. We had NO IDEA what we were doing at 19 (me) and 21 (Cam), so the fact we tumbled into a functional relationship that's survived 20 years of ups and downs feels like a miracle. I mean we did try very hard to communicate honestly etc. We just didn't expect that to work.

We met at a party in December 1998, where we were both avoiding unwanted suitors and wanting distraction from recent breakups. So when we found ourselves next to a cute, charming stranger on a two person couch we avoided our usual self consciousness/over-thinking, all I AM TALKING TO THIS CUTIE AND STAYING WHERE I AM AND HAVING FUN, SCREW YOU UNIVERSE. And then it turned out we were both enrolled in 3rd year computer science at the same uni in 1999, so we avoided lectures together in the scifi club and bonded. At a party in early March we both made a concerted effort to flirt with each other and got our wires largely crossed, but somehow figured out we were mutually interested just in time for my dad to come pick me up to go home. And on March 8 1999 we sat next to each other in the scifi club and slowly and shyly held hands and then after like...two hours one of us asked "So are we...dating...??" and the other one said "I think so???" and the rest is history :D

I remember emailing our mutual friend gelignite to say that I wasn't sure it would last but Cam was nice so far. AND HERE WE ARE.

And here's to another 20 years more :)

Comments

[lilysea]

Congratulations! ^_^

I am very pleased / happy for you! ^_^

[flamebyrd]

Congratulations! 🎉🌈🎈

[ursula]

Awww, happy anniversary!

I guess this means my own twenty-year relationship anniversary is coming up.

[lilacsigil]

Congratulations! We hit 21 years recently, it's great!

[velithya]

Congratulations!

[leecetheartist]

Congratulations! Woola to both of you! (shout of praise in Nyungar)

[torachan]

Happy anniversary!

[pedanther]

Hurrah!

*sends virtual cake that does not set off any allergies or food intolerances*

[alephnul]

Congratulations!

[cloudwrack]

Awww, that's such a cute story! Congrats on your anniversary!

[gelignite]

Saying it was TWENTY years ago makes it sound like it was 1/2 a lifetime ago.. oh wait.. :-P

Congrats on the milestone - it is lovely to have someone to share so many experiences with.

[rdm]

Congratulations to you both.

[stultiloquentia]

Hee! What a good.

[winterbird]

CONGRATULATIONS! You two are both so wonderful, and I love how much you support each other and are there for each other, and I am waving all the pom poms for like another million years (look I think that's very realistic) <3

(Also I loved hearing the story of how you two met the other day, it's so awesome).

[jesse_the_k]

Hooray!

Long-term relationships may be the best evidence of human life.

[pebblerocker]

Congrats! That's lovely.

I met up with a friend from my teen years recently, and he waffled very politely around the edges of asking me if I was still with that guy I was with last time we met, years ago, and when I said yes I was, he said it had restored his faith in relationships. (We're at about 17 years in meatspace now.)