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Imagine you join a discord (or other similar online group social space with rules and moderators) which has this rule: you're not allowed to say anything too self-deprecating. If you do, you must say three nice things about yourself.
The discord otherwise seems appealing.
Asking because I have seen people reblog this tumblr post mentioning such a rule positively, and I also once encountered this rule on what I think was a separate discord (rather than being for a group of friends it was for a fandom that poster does not appear to be interested in) So it seems a non-negligible number of people are cool with such rules.
But my reaction is very negative, and I'm curious to find out how unusual that is. Thus, a poll! I also just want to get across that some people are seriously troubled by such rules, but am genuinely unsure how that compares to the number who would significantly benefit from them.
Note: I'm not asking about variants like self deprecation being discouraged but there's no actual consequences, or whether you find this kind of rule helpful to enforce inside your own head or in other very different kinds of social situations. Nor am I distinguishing between how you would feel about the rule being applied to you, versus your assumptions about a space that has such a rule. If you have different feelings about Discord versus other social spaces, just answer for Discord.
Just: would encountering this specific rule in a real discord overall feel like a positive thing or a negative thing.
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The discord otherwise seems appealing.
Poll #30044 Discord/forum rule against self depreciation
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 40
How would you feel about the rule?
Very positive!
2 (5.0%)
Mildly positive
4 (10.0%)
Neutral/mixed/depends significantly on context
18 (45.0%)
Overall negative but I can probably live with it
10 (25.0%)
NOPE that's a dealbreaker
6 (15.0%)
I never use that kind of site/otherwise can't answer
2 (5.0%)
Asking because I have seen people reblog this tumblr post mentioning such a rule positively, and I also once encountered this rule on what I think was a separate discord (rather than being for a group of friends it was for a fandom that poster does not appear to be interested in) So it seems a non-negligible number of people are cool with such rules.
But my reaction is very negative, and I'm curious to find out how unusual that is. Thus, a poll! I also just want to get across that some people are seriously troubled by such rules, but am genuinely unsure how that compares to the number who would significantly benefit from them.
Note: I'm not asking about variants like self deprecation being discouraged but there's no actual consequences, or whether you find this kind of rule helpful to enforce inside your own head or in other very different kinds of social situations. Nor am I distinguishing between how you would feel about the rule being applied to you, versus your assumptions about a space that has such a rule. If you have different feelings about Discord versus other social spaces, just answer for Discord.
Just: would encountering this specific rule in a real discord overall feel like a positive thing or a negative thing.
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