Good Geek/Guy Gadvice

[alias_sqbr]

I keep seeing posts like this and then losing them again, so a (currently pretty sparse) compilation of all the useful-looking (to me) social-advice-for-geeks I've seen and can think of right now. I'll add more stuff if I think of it/am linked it.

Not all of these are explicitely "advice", but I think the important factors are (a) Talking about issues of social interaction and (b)largely being aimed at the people they're complaining about, ie not a woman ranting to her female friends about a particular male behaviour.

Also, note that I don't neccesarily agree with everything in all of these, but they are least thought provoking.

Dealing with geek social dynamics

• Five geek social fallacies
  
• RETAIL: THE WRATH OF CAT PISS MAN An extended version of Geek Fallacy 1
  
• The Short Bus of Social Interactivity needs "..also, don't use sexist/ablist etc language", but never mind, otherwise pretty good.
  

Relationship/flirting advice
So far all aimed at (but not neccesarily by) straight guys

• Jason's Guide to Con Flirting Without Being THAT GUY
  
• Auntie Penknife's Guide to Flirting for Men
  
• A Straight Geek Male's Guide to Interaction with Females
  
• I remember seeing an awesome essay on the flaws inherent in the "Nice Guy" theory, but I can't find it again. Brief googling got me this and this which capture some of it. EDIT: also The Internet Nice Guy Rears His Ugly Head Once More
  
• EDIT AGAIN: 8 months later and here it is: No more Mr Nice Guy. Via the comments on the feed for this xkcd strip about the same thing.
  

Totally not geeky, I just like it

• Baby-stepping away from racism: A guide for white people
  

Comments

[alias_sqbr]

They're not the ones who whine about girls never going after nice guys though, thus noone needs to write a rant about them.

And I don't know that there's any more of them than there are nice girls who can't find a partner. Aren't they just as entitled (ha!) to happiness?

The reasons differ from person to person, but imo it's often not that they're all that unnattractive (where attractiveness has a lot to do with things like self confidence etc, not just physical appearance), it's just that there's (currently) no intersection between the people they're attractive to, and the ones they're attracted to. Noones fault, really, just unfortunate.

Also: anonymous commenting is pretty low, dude, and has bad associations. If you know me at all, you'll know I have no problem with people disagreeing with me (heck, it's not like what you're saying is even very offensive, my husband said something pretty similar to me the other day and I still like him. Especially since he pretty quickly realised he was spouting crap :D ). Also, this way you won't get notified of my incisive, gob-smackingly brilliant reply!