Good Geek/Guy Gadvice

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I keep seeing posts like this and then losing them again, so a (currently pretty sparse) compilation of all the useful-looking (to me) social-advice-for-geeks I've seen and can think of right now. I'll add more stuff if I think of it/am linked it.

Not all of these are explicitely "advice", but I think the important factors are (a) Talking about issues of social interaction and (b)largely being aimed at the people they're complaining about, ie not a woman ranting to her female friends about a particular male behaviour.

Also, note that I don't neccesarily agree with everything in all of these, but they are least thought provoking.

Dealing with geek social dynamics

• Five geek social fallacies
  
• RETAIL: THE WRATH OF CAT PISS MAN An extended version of Geek Fallacy 1
  
• The Short Bus of Social Interactivity needs "..also, don't use sexist/ablist etc language", but never mind, otherwise pretty good.
  

Relationship/flirting advice
So far all aimed at (but not neccesarily by) straight guys

• Jason's Guide to Con Flirting Without Being THAT GUY
  
• Auntie Penknife's Guide to Flirting for Men
  
• A Straight Geek Male's Guide to Interaction with Females
  
• I remember seeing an awesome essay on the flaws inherent in the "Nice Guy" theory, but I can't find it again. Brief googling got me this and this which capture some of it. EDIT: also The Internet Nice Guy Rears His Ugly Head Once More
  
• EDIT AGAIN: 8 months later and here it is: No more Mr Nice Guy. Via the comments on the feed for this xkcd strip about the same thing.
  

Totally not geeky, I just like it

• Baby-stepping away from racism: A guide for white people
  

Comments

oh maaaaaan!

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The five geek fallacies article was eye opening. I've seen the mentioned behaviour in others, but didn't realise it was so wide-spread to have become a stereotype.

I think I suffer from #1 a tad, but get pissed off at people quickly enough to not let this affect me.

#2 and #3 are just alien to me.

#4 - I reeled in horror a couple of years ago when my various groups of friends started meeting and interacting with each other. Thankfully that phase has passed, and they have spread apart again (not completely though).

#5 - WTF? I would get NOTHING done if I felt the over-riding urge to invite all my friends to everything I do. Hell, some of the times I don't invite any!

Re: oh maaaaaan!

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Yeah, reading the article I was like "You mean it isn't just me/the people I know?" :) I have problems with pretty much all of them to some extent (well, maybe not 3), I think it's partly a way of avoiding having to deal with the complexities of social interaction ("Can't figure out who to invite..I'll invite them all!").