Good Geek/Guy Gadvice

[alias_sqbr]

I keep seeing posts like this and then losing them again, so a (currently pretty sparse) compilation of all the useful-looking (to me) social-advice-for-geeks I've seen and can think of right now. I'll add more stuff if I think of it/am linked it.

Not all of these are explicitely "advice", but I think the important factors are (a) Talking about issues of social interaction and (b)largely being aimed at the people they're complaining about, ie not a woman ranting to her female friends about a particular male behaviour.

Also, note that I don't neccesarily agree with everything in all of these, but they are least thought provoking.

Dealing with geek social dynamics

• Five geek social fallacies
  
• RETAIL: THE WRATH OF CAT PISS MAN An extended version of Geek Fallacy 1
  
• The Short Bus of Social Interactivity needs "..also, don't use sexist/ablist etc language", but never mind, otherwise pretty good.
  

Relationship/flirting advice
So far all aimed at (but not neccesarily by) straight guys

• Jason's Guide to Con Flirting Without Being THAT GUY
  
• Auntie Penknife's Guide to Flirting for Men
  
• A Straight Geek Male's Guide to Interaction with Females
  
• I remember seeing an awesome essay on the flaws inherent in the "Nice Guy" theory, but I can't find it again. Brief googling got me this and this which capture some of it. EDIT: also The Internet Nice Guy Rears His Ugly Head Once More
  
• EDIT AGAIN: 8 months later and here it is: No more Mr Nice Guy. Via the comments on the feed for this xkcd strip about the same thing.
  

Totally not geeky, I just like it

• Baby-stepping away from racism: A guide for white people
  

Comments

[elaran.livejournal.com]

Yeah, my flist's been dotted with those posts actually. It's kinda fun to read. Though a large portion of it is stuff that I considered part of normal social interaction with other people. And I get that the stereotype is that the people at cons etc or geeks/nerds/whatever are, I don't know, less aware? of social boundaries but it's a bit worrying that basic stuff has to be spelled out for people out there.

[alias_sqbr]

And I get that the stereotype is that the people at cons etc or geeks/nerds/whatever are, I don't know, less aware? of social boundaries but it's a bit worrying that basic stuff has to be spelled out for people out there.

Have you ever been to a con? :)

[elaran.livejournal.com]

LOL this is true that I have not. :)

[alias_sqbr]

Heh. I mean they're not that bad, mostly, but in a lot of ways it's like unisfa, only more so, without the context of classes etc to remind people of normal human behaviour :)