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Mm. It would be great if there was a metafandom type place which covered all such fandomy stuff (or at least the ones I care about :D) but I feel reasonably certain that the different groups would Not Play Nice. *insert the parable of scans_daily*

I think the "Boys are icky, and so is everything they like" attitude comes from a mix of an understandable siege mentality and the general human tendency to demonise the Other. It does make it annoying for girls like us who like "boys stuff" as well as "girls stuff".

That said, we live in a sexist society with a long history of women being marginalised. So a "women's space" really isn't the same as a "men's space", and imo can sometimes be a good thing. I personally think it's great that women can express themselves in fanfic etc in ways they generally can't in the wider world. But that doesn't give us lisence to be prats about it.

I have this metaphor about slashers being like drag queens, but it's probably best left in my head :)

I can't speak for the rest of the board, but have you met Cathy Cupitt? She's quite a local SMOF and a staple at Swancon, so I can't see her being unaware of the male aspects of fandom. But afaict all she writes is slash. Naomi Novik does vids, too, but not AMVs (which are where the men come into it in a big way afaict)