No hugs!

[alias_sqbr]

I've been meaning to make a post about this for ages but it refuses to come out right.

So: on the whole I don't like hugs. That includes virtual *hugs*. I am for some reason ok with "positive vibes". Touching in general I'm wierd about. It's not a fear thing, or a sex thing (mostly, though that does make things more fraught), it's more an emotional thing. It doesn't mean I don't like you!

I'm...weird about emotions. I have real trouble expressing them, and by the time I'm at a point where I can talk about something that makes me sad I'm usually not actually feeling that sad about it, and people comforting me as if I am sad makes me Very Uncomfortable(*).

I also tend to get weirded out by flirting, even if it's obvious the other person is joking. (Though sometimes I'm not) On the whole I get uncomfortable talking about sex, though this is the result of neurosis not conservatism (or lack of interest! :)), and the more dispassionate and intellectual the discussion the more comfortable I am.

Aaaannd that's enough of that. You can ask questions if you feel you need clarification but I may have trouble answering. Right now I feel like I've been holding my hand to a mild electrical current (a rough approximation of my mental response to thinking about things that make me feel neurotic).

(And thanks again to livewareissue for the icon :))

(*)The primary motivation for this post being that I can link to it when I think I'm in danger of being given lots of *hug*s

Comments

[samvara]

*waves at you in a friendly-like way*

[alias_sqbr]

*waves back* :)

[bunny_m]

*vibes?*

[alias_sqbr]

But are they GOOD vibes or BAD vibes? It's very important!

[bunny_m]

Y'know, if this comment wasn't in reply to a post about you explaining how you are neurotic, I'd leve you hanging on that, just for shiggles. =]

Seeing as it is, however, I'll just mope a little inside and clarify: *sends positive vibes*

[alias_sqbr]

Heh. Under the circumstances I think my neurosis could cope with the uncertainty ("Odds that bunny_m wants to send me negative vibes: low") but thankyou :)

[jeshyr]

I'll try to remember this - I have one other friend who hates virtual hugs too. But I'm about the most tactile person ever so I'll probably forget at least sometimes so this is me apologising in advance for any forgetful moments :/

*sends good thoughts*

r

[alias_sqbr]

Thankyou. And "*hugs*" immediately followed by "OHCRAPSORRY" is nowhere near as bad :)

[aquaeri]

I'll try to remember that.

[alias_sqbr]

Thankyou ^_^

[susanreads]

Thank you. I always feel weird when someone is talking about some difficulty that I don't have a constructive response to and people in comments are all *hugs* because I don't want to do that. I have physical reasons for avoiding hugs in real life and being touchy-feely in text instead feels unnatural. Thanks for those alternative formulations. *sends good vibes*

[alias_sqbr]

Such situations are why I made this icon!