:(

[alias_sqbr]

My grandma is dead :( Unexpected reaction to the cement used around a pin in a routine hip operation, though obviously her general declining health is not coincidental.

You can tell where I get my non-hugginess from, I said to mum that I'd give her a hug if I was there and she pointed out that neither of us would enjoy it, so I should give agnostic prayers (grandma was agnostic too, mum isn't. I wonder if she'll have a religious funeral like dad did for his atheist father. Hmm)

And then we talked about how I was evil for introducing my sweet innocent (lol) 23 year old brother to True Blood, because we're not big on talking about our feelings in my family.

Speaking of which: no supportive comments! Links to cheerful things will be accepted but are not mandatory, this is the sort of slow burn sad that doesn't suit that sort of thing so much.

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[furikku.livejournal.com]

Sucks when people you love die. :(

I'm never sure about the funeral thing; like I personally have the stance that funerals are for the living, so hey whatever helps them grieve, but I guess there are probably at least religious standards about it that'd make it weird if the deceased is atheist/agnostic/not that religion. (If not like ethical things plus the general weirdness factor.)

[alias_sqbr]

I'm pretty sure at least half the (living) family members at my grandad's funeral were atheists (or in one case buddhist), but since they're all in my generation had no say :/ I wouldn't have minded so much if the priest hadn't have been kind of a smug prat about it.

I'm kind of ambivalent about it, since I think not having a religious ceremony is plausibly more upsetting to a religious family member than having one is to an atheist, but it did make me uncomfortable knowing that he would've thought it was all stupid damaging bunk.

And then there's the fact that if grandma was any religion it was jewish, but the only living jewish family member in the country is my uncle who noone likes.

[furikku.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't have minded so much if the priest hadn't have been kind of a smug prat about it.

uuugh, fuck smug priests! >:(

And then there's the fact that if grandma was any religion it was jewish

OK, for some reason that bothers me. (The not-Jewish funeral part, not the being Jewish part.) Possibly the whole appropriation/whitewashing/whatever thing. Though I wonder if there's a way to make some kind of mixed ceremony, or if that would just muck up the whole thing. >_>

[alias_sqbr]

Having spoken to mum, grandma didn't want a funeral at all, so we're just having a wake. Which neatly sidesteps the problem :)

[furikku.livejournal.com]

I love it when things work out nicely! :D